Why Is It Always Daughters Who Have to Learn Manners? An Emotional Story

 Why Is It Always Daughters Who Have to Learn Manners? 

In a small house in Chiniot, lived a brother and sister named Ali and Ayesha. Both were equally loved by their parents. Both were excellent in their studies.

But the lessons taught to them were completely different.

When guests visited their home, Ayesha was always instructed, "Daughter, sit properly. Sit straight. Laugh quietly. Keep your head down."

But Ali was never told anything. He could sit however he wanted, laugh loudly, and speak in a harsh voice, and no one would stop him.

When Ayesha spoke a little loudly, her mother would say, "Daughter, don't do this. You have to go to another house after marriage."

Tired of hearing this every single day, Ayesha finally asked a question that left everyone silent.

She said, "Mother, Father, I have a question in my heart."

"You always tell me to learn manners, to be patient, and to lower my gaze because I have to go to another house."

"But why don't you teach the same to my brother Ali?"

"Why don't you teach Ali that he should respect his sister and speak to her with kindness? Why don't you teach him never to speak to her in a harsh tone?"

"Why don't you teach him to lower his gaze while walking and to look at other people's sisters with respect and dignity?"

"Tomorrow, a daughter from another family will also come to Ali's house as a wife or a sister-in-law. If every family only teaches manners to their own daughters and teaches nothing to their sons, then how will daughters like me ever be safe?"

Her parents were shocked. They had never thought about it from this perspective before.

Her father had tears in his eyes. He stood up and said, "My daughter, you are absolutely right. We made a big mistake."

He looked at his son Ali and said with love and firmness, "My son, from today onwards, I will teach you even more than I teach your sister."

"My son, I teach you that you must respect your sister and every girl in this world. Never talk to them in a harsh tone. Your words should always carry respect."

"I teach you to lower your gaze when you walk. This is not only for girls; this is for boys as well. A real man is not one who controls women, but one who protects the honor of other people's daughters."

"And remember one thing, my son. One day, a daughter from another family will come to your house as your wife. How you treat your sister today is how another man will treat your future daughter. So, learn to be a good brother first, and you will automatically become a good husband and a good father."

That day, Ali learned a lesson he would remember for his entire life. He promised his sister that he would always respect her and protect her.

From that day forward, in that house, both the son and the daughter were taught the same values  patience, manners, respect, and modesty.

And that house became the most peaceful and respectful house in the entire neighborhood.

Moral of the Story:

Do not only teach manners, patience, and modesty to your daughters. Teach your sons as well. Teach your sons to respect their sisters, to speak with kindness, and to lower their gaze. Because if you want your daughter to be safe in someone else's house, you must first teach your son to make someone else's daughter feel safe in your own house.

Written by: Kinza Aslam

Founder: Kinzay Writer From Chiniot

Blog: Kinzaych826Stories.blogspot.com