Today's Society: We Teach Daughters To Be Silent and Sons To Be Shameless
Today's society looks modern from the outside. We have smartphones, fast internet, and modern clothes. But from the inside, our thinking is still the same as it was fifty years ago. Especially when it comes to our daughters.
The Double Standards of Our Society
If a son comes home late at night, no one questions him. His mother says, "He is a boy. Boys can stay out late."
But if a daughter comes home just five minutes late from college, the entire house starts interrogating her. "Where were you? Why are you late? Who were you with?"
This is the reality of today's society. One house, same parents, but two different rules for a son and a daughter.
A son can laugh loudly, he can have many friends, and he can make mistakes. People still call him innocent. But if a daughter laughs loudly, she is called shameless. If she has a male friend, she is called characterless. If she makes one small mistake, society judges her for her entire life.
Social Media Has Made It Worse
We believed that social media would make our society more open-minded. Instead, it has made society more judgmental.
On Instagram, we appreciate modern photos. On Facebook, we share posts about women empowerment. But in our own homes, we tell our daughters, "Do not post your photo. What will people say?"
We teach our daughters to be afraid of society, instead of teaching society to respect our daughters.
A girl posts a photo with a book, people say she is showing off. A girl posts a photo with her friends, people say she has no modesty. A boy can post anything and he is called cool. A girl cannot post anything, or she is called an attention seeker.
This is not a modern society. This is a judgmental society with a modern mobile phone.
We Judge Daughters, We Forgive Sons
If a marriage fails, we blame the daughter. We say, "She must have done something wrong. She does not know how to adjust."
If a daughter gets divorced, we say her life is finished. But if a son gets divorced, we say, "It is okay. We will find a better girl for him."
If a girl speaks to a boy, she is considered characterless. If a boy speaks to ten girls, he is considered confident.
We teach our sons to be proud of their freedom, and we teach our daughters to be ashamed of their own freedom. We tell our daughters to lower their gaze, but we never tell our sons to lower their eyes.
What We Need To Change
Today's society does not need more educated people. It needs more kind people.
We must teach our sons that a girl's "No" means no. We must teach our sons how to respect women, not just how to earn money.
We must tell our daughters that they are not a burden. They are not a symbol of honor that can be broken. They are human beings with dreams, just like our sons.
A society where a daughter has to think ten times before speaking, but a son can say anything without thinking, can never make progress.
Let your daughter speak loudly. Let her laugh loudly. Let her dream loudly. Because a silent daughter is not a well-mannered daughter. She is a frightened daughter.
Final Words
Today's society judges a girl by her clothes, not by her character. It judges a girl by her friends, not by her dreams.
But remember, a society that does not respect its daughters can never be successful. The way you treat your daughters today will determine the kind of world your sons will live in tomorrow.
If you want to change society, start from your own home. Give your daughter the same freedom, the same trust, and the same respect that you give to your son.
Because daughters were not born to be silent. They were born to change the world.
Moral: Stop teaching your daughters to be afraid of society. Start teaching society to be respectful of your daughters.
Written By: Kinza Aslam
Founder: Kinzay Writer From Chiniot
Blog: kinzaych826stories.blogspot.com
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